When was the last time you defined your boundaries.

For your friendships.

Your relationship.

Your family.

Yourself.

What do you need to have space to grow? What challenges you to strive towards your best self? What are the things you cannot, and will no longer, tolerate to save your energy and peace of mind?

Some of my favorite ones that I have personally learned and enforced these past few years are:

• Mutual respect
• Mutual support
• Trust
• Show up, especially when it matters
• It is okay to say no
• You are not in charge of to be who people think I am
• It is okay to change

As one of my favorite quotes goes,

“You are under no obligation to be the same person you were 5 minutes ago.” 

– Alan Watts

I struggled with setting boundaries for years. It resulted in trauma, physical and emotional pain. I was not able to recognize that it was my lack of boundaries enabling these circumstances.

By not understanding what was best for me, how to communicate my boundaries clearly, and understanding my own response patterns- I was harming myself. 

Time and again, I was in situations where my boundaries were tested, and I inevitably failed to enact them. Because I did not know them.

Do the self work to figure out what your boundaries are. And anyone who gets upset with 

you for them can fork off. It is so true that anyone who gets upset with you for setting boundaries is because they were the ones benefiting from you not having any.

If you need help defining boundaries, or want to discuss this matter, reach out to me.

jessicajoy.yogafit@yahoo.com